Why wait 'till marriage?

(From a Christian woman's point of view)

1. Why not? – There’s more to lose than to gain.

- Lose a better chance for a better life. We could get pregnant. What if the guy who impregnated us doesn’t marry us? We not only become single parents, our children too will have no fathers.

- Lose our self-respect. So after we’ve had pre-marital sex, what then? We’ll never be the same person again, have the same dignity, innocence or security. C’mon girls, we know this deep down inside.

- Lose the most sacred thing we can give our future husband. Wouldn’t we be really proud knowing he knows he’s the first, the last, the only one who’d ever have us? Wouldn’t we feel worth more if we know no one else has ever had us, not even this man we love until he marries us? That we are reserved?

The truth is, there’s nothing to gain in pre-marital sex except insecurity and the false feeling and belief that you’ve bonded and you know it’s a lie.

2. Because this is what God wants - “I Cor. 16:18 Flee fornication. Every sin that a man does is without the body; but he that commits fornication sins against his own body” and “1 Cor. 7:2 Nevertheless, to avoid fornication, let every man have his own wife, and let every woman have her own husband.” According to Webword dictionary fornication is - Voluntary sexual intercourse between persons not married to each other.

But you say you’re not a Christian and don’t believe in God. Well, I don’t care, I am and I do, and you should. If I can’t reason with you on this one, go back to no. 1 and proceed to the rest.

3. To avoid guilt – I’ve heard many stories of women who’ve engaged in sex before marriage, got pregnant, and although their boyfriend married them, they still feel guilty about it years After. Some feels their husband only married them because of the baby regardless of how well loved they are.

And there are those who didn’t get pregnant but fears their husbands see them less because they had a past where they slept around. The guilt and disgrace of pre-marital sex embeds deep, it may lessen through the years but it’s still there. And every time it’s brought up, the shame of it still hurts.

4. It’s more exciting! – Nothing like making love the first time on your honeymoon. Would even be more exciting if you both have waited and are doing it the first time. What bonding that would be, to discover the beauty of sex together inside marriage, without guilt or reservations. An unforgettable experience for both of you, shared by only the two of you.

Don’t worry about how it’s supposed to be done, you’ll go through marriage counseling and family planning seminars before you get married so you’ll learn all that.

5. Because we are precious – We deserve a proposal, a ring and a marriage vow first, because we are more than sex objects that’s to be used to gratify the urges of the flesh.

Why wait till marriage? It’s the right thing and it’s always better. If you’re with someone and you can’t wait anymore, get married but if your man isn’t ready or doesn’t want to yet, hold off and wait. But if your guy wants to be that intimate with you but doesn’t want to tie the knot, not good, if he keeps pressuring, break up before you give in.

Further readings:

Love in waiting III

Pre-marital sex and emotional baggage
Once in a lifetime gift