Catch Him, Keep him...NOT!

(A book review)

I just happened to click one of the ads on my page the other day and landed on a promotional site for a book written by someone and a portion caught my eye. This particular part talked on some reasons why we can’t keep the man we like.

Well, here is my “sort of” partial review of it. My comments are in red and blue.

So part of the promotional page reads as follows:

"Mistake #1: Leading A Man To Think You Are "Needy" And "Insecure"

Did you know that there are 6 ways you can set off a man's "Insecurity Alert" and make him think twice about pursuing a relationship with you?

Sadly, even confident women often "accidentally" give off one of these signs... and just one can kill the chance of a man asking you on a second date."

Question: Who isn’t insecure?

"As you read through these signals men pick up on as "needy" and unattractive, ask yourself if YOU have ever been guilty of committing one of these deadly mistakes:

Talking or saying nasty things about your past boyfriends. Saying bad things about men you have been involved with actually reflects the negatively back on YOU. It makes a man worry you are carrying around "baggage" that HE will have to deal with should he become involved with you."

Agrees and dissagrees:

Agrees – Who’d want to be with anyone who says bad things about anyone, (ex or not). I mean, if you bash your last boyfriend/girlfriend and say all kinds of nasty things about him, and you were with him/her at one time, what does that say about your standards and you? No matter how bad it was, best to keep mum about it and not do your dirty laundry in public.

Dissagrees – Who doesn’t have baggage from a previous relationship that didn’t work? We all, unconsciously carry over some in the next one but if the guy/girl really loves you, he/she will be willing to wait until you’re ready and over the past, and he/she will even help you get there, not abandon you.

"Speaking negatively about other women. When women call other women names like "slut", "bitch", and "crazy", it is anything but impressive to a man you are attracted you. Women will often do this when they see a good looking, desirable woman, especially if they feel their man might be attracted to her. This just makes a man think you are trying to cover up your own insecurities, and looking for validation and attention. Not good."

Agrees – Do not murder the same gender over jealousy. All women are beautiful. BUT if I have a guy friend falling for somebody whom I know isn’t worthy of him or being lured into temptation by some woman, I won’t sit down and just watch, I’ll say something.

The review is long (and this is just partial) so I will have to cut off here and post the second part another day.

To be continued…

Further Reads:
Basta Lovelife (Book Review)