Women and love at different stages

It’s true that as we get older, we learn and become wiser. Our standard and preferences change, our views, our take on things. Here’s my attempt at presenting the different stages in a woman’s life and how her perspective on love and chosen partner for life changes from each one.

I can’t speak for all but it’s based on my own experiences and observation of other fellow female species.

Teens (He loves me, he loves me not)

We start noticing the boys, from hating them in fifth grade, we begin to actually like them now. We go through a lot of changes during this period, physically, hormonally and emotionally.

This is also the stage when we have the most drama and unrealistic view of love, relationship and marriage, life and well, the world in general. Of what these things are supposed to be like, undying love, feel good romance and dreams of a perfect life.

We’re supposed to be focusing on school and finishing but gets distracted by the walking, winking crush, the popular varsity player, the excelling genius or the bad boy opposite gender. There’s not much standard, you still don’t know what you want. As long as he is cute, it’s fine. Our hormones are on a high and we’re restless, and we can’t wait to know love the first time, add peer pressure and before you know it, you’re in a relationship that you didn’t even think about.

And this early on, and not long after you discover love is not at all like you thought it was, was it even love?

20s (I am a working girl)

By this time we’ve finished school and most likely have had if not a few relationships already and know love is not a fairy tale.

This is the period where we want to pursue a career. We’re more independent, we just can’t wait to go out there and carve our place in the world.

We want a guy who has more than cuteness to show now. We want somebody ambitious too, driven and making his own mark in the rat race and getting financially stable. Physique is important, so is popularity. We want to be with somebody we can parade around and make other women turn green with envy.

Although this is the best age for marrying and having children, we’re torn whether to raise a family now and delay the fulfillment of our dream or completely abandon pursuing it while single and regret it later if we don’t or vice versa (pursue the dream and regret marrying when older)

30s (Clock ticking)

If still single, we’re now racing against time to find the ONE and have a family. At this age, we’ve established some sort of a career, have a job and are more confident about our chosen profession BUT something is missing.

Our biological clock is ticking and everything else takes a back seat to marriage and children. Women are at their prime in their thirties, physically and sexually. We’d trade our professional life, our dream even our citizenship for husbands and babies. We’re ready to raise children and stay home, and do the chores. It’s all family at this point.

Our choice of partner takes another notch higher. We want father/husband potential boyfriends. Attraction is still important (it’s always a part of it) and we still want romance but the definition of what’s attractive and romantic is different from what it was when we were teens and in our twenties.

Someone who likes children, who is responsible, mature, financially stable and ready to settle down, would be attractive compared to just being cute and popular. We’re now thinking long-term.

To be continued….

Note: you're all free to disagree. Your experiences and preferences may be different. There’s a part 2 so don’t change blog.

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