Need or want? (Relationship wise) Part II
Sometimes looking for a lifetime partner is like shopping. Before we go to the mall, we make a list of what we’re going to buy; we make the list in our heads of how we want our future spouse should be like. Often we can’t tell which quality is a ‘need’ and which is a ‘want’.
WANT
We meet someone cute, tall, financially stable and attractive but has an unattractive personality or has an attitude, or is disinterested, avoids our company, ignores us, indifferent to us but we say, it doesn’t matter, our affection for him/her is unaffected. Is someone like this what we need or what we just want? Should we continue to pursue?
It’s like stumbling on to a pair of shoes that’s so appealing to you but wouldn’t fit. You want it BUT you don’t really need it because you can never use it. Maybe you can put it on display but it will never be of real use to you. Would you still buy it?
NEED
We meet someone who isn’t so bad looking but just not the color, or the size or the type we would’ve really wanted, not well off enough to provide all that we want in life but we have peace and great friendship with him/her, and he/she loves, respects and honors us. YES. This is what we need.
Someone who can return what we feel, who respond to our affection and gives back equally, if not more. Someone we know would be good for us long term.
Again, it’s like finding a pair of rubber shoes, not the color you want but fits perfectly, not the model you’ve been hoping to get but it’s good quality, very light and with it you know you’d be able to race faster and be victorious in the marathon of life. Now why would you not get that?
If you’re to choose which of the pair of shoes mentioned above (the “WANT” shoes or the “NEED” shoes) would you have, which one would you buy?
It’s imperative to be wise when choosing a partner for life. It’s our hearts and our future that’s on the line.
WANT
We meet someone cute, tall, financially stable and attractive but has an unattractive personality or has an attitude, or is disinterested, avoids our company, ignores us, indifferent to us but we say, it doesn’t matter, our affection for him/her is unaffected. Is someone like this what we need or what we just want? Should we continue to pursue?
It’s like stumbling on to a pair of shoes that’s so appealing to you but wouldn’t fit. You want it BUT you don’t really need it because you can never use it. Maybe you can put it on display but it will never be of real use to you. Would you still buy it?
NEED
We meet someone who isn’t so bad looking but just not the color, or the size or the type we would’ve really wanted, not well off enough to provide all that we want in life but we have peace and great friendship with him/her, and he/she loves, respects and honors us. YES. This is what we need.
Someone who can return what we feel, who respond to our affection and gives back equally, if not more. Someone we know would be good for us long term.
Again, it’s like finding a pair of rubber shoes, not the color you want but fits perfectly, not the model you’ve been hoping to get but it’s good quality, very light and with it you know you’d be able to race faster and be victorious in the marathon of life. Now why would you not get that?
If you’re to choose which of the pair of shoes mentioned above (the “WANT” shoes or the “NEED” shoes) would you have, which one would you buy?
It’s imperative to be wise when choosing a partner for life. It’s our hearts and our future that’s on the line.
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