Is he into me or not?

How do you know if a guy likes to be more than friends with you? Simple, he tells you.

The biggest mistake we, women, can make is to read more into things. If he isn’t saying anything, DO NOT ASSUME until he makes his interest clear.

Believe me, the moment he finds out for himself that he wants to be more than friends; he won’t hold himself back from telling you.

So why is he so nice and caring, asking you out at times, wanting to hang out, doing you favors but isn’t saying anything solid?

Well, there are a few things I can think of or safely assume why but keep in mind I’m not a guy so…I wouldn’t really be 100 percent sure.

   1. For some reason, he likes and enjoy your friendship, like a brother would to a sister (admit it girls, we also have guy friends like that, those we love with a brotherly affection) but that’s all.
   2. He sees a potential but taking time to know you more and make sure he’s certain of what he feels before he says anything. Isn’t that a good thing? To not rush?
   3. He’s a player (worst I can think of). He might be keeping five other women in the same situation, you just don’t know it.

 So how do you protect yourself?

   1. NEVER ASSUME ANYTHING is more than friendship until it’s more than that officially with verbal confirmation.
   2. DO NOT READ MORE into anything he does for you.
   3. BE OPEN to others. This would help you not to focus on just one person.
   4. IF you’re starting to like him more, distance yourself and keep this list to read all the time.

Sometimes we can’t help to feel something, especially if the guy friend is really caring and nice but we CAN HELP IT not to let ourselves get hurt further.

Daughters of Jerusalem, I charge you: Do not arouse or awaken love until it so desires.- Songs of Solomon 8:4

Further Readings:
Dangerous Assumptions (Part I)
Love in Waiting (Part I)
He’s Just Not Into You: A Christian response