Don't be a sore loser

I just watched one of the ‘audition’ episodes of “American Idol” and one of the contestants stormed out of the audition room cursing the judges after not getting their approval. What a sore loser!

Honestly, I thought that contestant might have had a chance but after seeing his attitude towards not being chosen (and he wasn’t exactly rejected but was told he just wasn’t ready for the challenge yet and obviously the judges were right), I’m glad they turned him down. He couldn’t bear to think he wasn’t that good enough yet to not be chosen, oh how proud and he’s not even a star yet.

Sometimes we’re like that when it comes to losing in love, when the person of our affection chooses someone else. “No more Ms. Nice girl! I'm going to make them pay (and usually, it’s us who pays the price)!”

We’re thinking, “Hey, I’m better than that girl, I’m prettier, brainier, I’m taller so why is she getting my guy? She can’t even whistle!” We can’t take it that someone else could be better than us; someone we think is lesser (pride). So we plot, we scheme, we take revenge, not realizing that the only person we really destroy is ourselves.

Let’s say you’ve successfully hurt the people who caused your heartbreak, do you think the guy would come running back to you or would he be even more thankful he didn’t choose you after discovering your scheming ways?

You don’t want that! What we want is to make him realize he made the mistake of not choosing you. How?

- Make him see that you love yourself enough to not go that low. That you can take it and you can move on and do that.

- Make him see that you can improve and be better, so venture out and learn new things and be a better person.

Would that guarantee he will see the light and go back to you? Probably not but by doing that you help yourself faster to recovery from the wounds of rejection AND BELIEVE ME, on your journey, you’ll meet someone better and then you’ll look back to this day and say “Why did I even like that guy?”

So take it easy, we’ve all been ‘not chosen’ at one point. The important thing is that you were able to keep your integrity through it and, that, girl, will lead you on to greater things, to a greater man even.