Signals (A comparative study) IV

And here finally, is the last of the survey questions.

How do you know if the opposite gender is already interested without being direct? Now to some, verbally expressing one’s affection for someone comes easy, almost like a natural gift BUT unfortunately, not for all. And I bet, everyone has experienced the urge to say what we really feel towards that special person BUT once we’re face to face with her/him, we got tongue tied or worse, said the opposite.

 

We end up ‘doing’ rather than ‘saying’ (after all, isn’t there a saying – “Action speaks louder than words?”. So maybe this will help us read between the body languages and decipher what the opposite sex is trying to get across with or without words.

So here are the questions I asked the participants:

How do you let him/her know you're interested?

Both men and women in the survey unanimously said they’d spend time and talk more to the person of interest.

The men mentioned giving of gifts, flowers in particular (mind you though, not all want flowers. Flowers can kill me.)

What would make you think he/she is interested?

Again, both sexes said they’d think someone is interested if that person spent more time with them, talking to them.

This shows how important time and communication are in building a relationship, that little or a bit more of it could send a message the opposite sex is interested or not at all.

The responses to the efforts of the opposite gender also would show if he/she wants to be more than friends or just that.

What would you want him/her to do to show he/she is interested?

Again, time and talk. One said she wants the guy to directly tell her (And I prefer this too but I understand it’s just not that easy for some.)

Conclusion:

Each individual has his/her own different ways of showing our interest in the opposite sex and trying to figure them out is part of the fun. But I think we can tell if someone is interested just by the way he/she interacts with us even if the person can’t say what his heart wants to say.

Though words can make it clearer and official, actions speak louder.

My favorite line from this set:

Female, single, 21

It's the little things that count.

“Love is patient…” – 1 Corinthians 13:4

Further readings:

Why you shouldn’t be torpe (shy type)

Tell it as it is