Red Flags: The jealous type
“Jealousy is the tie that binds, and binds, and binds” – Helen Rowland
…and binds…until it suffocates.
Trust is very important in a relationship. If you can’t trust then you shouldn’t be in a relationship, if he can’t trust you then you shouldn’t be with him.
If you’re not in a relationship yet and he’s already jealous of your guy friends then that’s a very bad sign of insecurity, distrust and he probably has a tendency to be controlling in the future.
There was an infamous female celebrity singer here (in the Philippines) who married such a man. She disregarded the red flags before she married him and suffered the consequences. She wasn’t allowed to go out of the house by her overly jealous husband, not even to interact with her own family for fear her relatives will convince her to leave him. His jealous outrages drove him to beat her up several times.
She was able to escape one afternoon when the husband wasn’t in the house, packed a few things and broke out with her daughter and house help. Imagine being a prisoner in your own home and needing to break out to be safe.
I think a little bit of jealousy is ok and can’t be completely eliminated in a relationship but more than a little is toxic.
So choose wisely and don’t take the warning signs lightly. I did (in a past relationship) and well, suffered the consequences. I’m recovering but it’s taken time.
Further readings:
Controlling relationships
7 losers you don’t want
Jealousy – understanding women
…and binds…until it suffocates.
Trust is very important in a relationship. If you can’t trust then you shouldn’t be in a relationship, if he can’t trust you then you shouldn’t be with him.
If you’re not in a relationship yet and he’s already jealous of your guy friends then that’s a very bad sign of insecurity, distrust and he probably has a tendency to be controlling in the future.
There was an infamous female celebrity singer here (in the Philippines) who married such a man. She disregarded the red flags before she married him and suffered the consequences. She wasn’t allowed to go out of the house by her overly jealous husband, not even to interact with her own family for fear her relatives will convince her to leave him. His jealous outrages drove him to beat her up several times.
She was able to escape one afternoon when the husband wasn’t in the house, packed a few things and broke out with her daughter and house help. Imagine being a prisoner in your own home and needing to break out to be safe.
I think a little bit of jealousy is ok and can’t be completely eliminated in a relationship but more than a little is toxic.
So choose wisely and don’t take the warning signs lightly. I did (in a past relationship) and well, suffered the consequences. I’m recovering but it’s taken time.
Further readings:
Controlling relationships
7 losers you don’t want
Jealousy – understanding women
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