Online or offline dating: Which is safer? II
I was leafing through web pages one day when I stumbled onto a Christian site for marriage and family (sorry I didn’t keep the page address) and one of their featured articles was the story of a woman who married her College sweetheart she met at a Bible school. She knew him for years and eventually tied the knot.
She didn’t imagine or ever expected that in a few years, she’d discover she married an abuser. She stayed in the marriage as long as she could until the abuse was no longer just verbal but was becoming physical. In the end, they parted ways and divorced.
Now, remember she knew him personally, for years, hung out, dated in person but had no idea at all he was hiding a monster inside and only discovered it too late. They were already married.
So what does this show? That whether you met or dated online or offline, there’s no guarantee the person you know is really the person he/she seems to be. There’s no guarantee the relationship will work and last for life.
So pray, pray and pray, long and patiently before you plunge into a lifetime commitment. I’m not scaring single people to marry, I want to marry too but being wise about it will save us lifelong misery.
The success of a relationship still depends on the two people involved in it and the GOD that governs it. How they met and dated weighs little compared to how much and how farther they went to know each other more deeply (NOT meaning physical intimacy here but more on character) and how willing they are to work out the differences to make it last.
Further readings:
Online or offline dating: Which is safer?
Long Distance Relationships
She didn’t imagine or ever expected that in a few years, she’d discover she married an abuser. She stayed in the marriage as long as she could until the abuse was no longer just verbal but was becoming physical. In the end, they parted ways and divorced.
Now, remember she knew him personally, for years, hung out, dated in person but had no idea at all he was hiding a monster inside and only discovered it too late. They were already married.
So what does this show? That whether you met or dated online or offline, there’s no guarantee the person you know is really the person he/she seems to be. There’s no guarantee the relationship will work and last for life.
So pray, pray and pray, long and patiently before you plunge into a lifetime commitment. I’m not scaring single people to marry, I want to marry too but being wise about it will save us lifelong misery.
The success of a relationship still depends on the two people involved in it and the GOD that governs it. How they met and dated weighs little compared to how much and how farther they went to know each other more deeply (NOT meaning physical intimacy here but more on character) and how willing they are to work out the differences to make it last.
Further readings:
Online or offline dating: Which is safer?
Long Distance Relationships
Comments
Been dating and meeting guys online for how many years now, and yes you are right - there's no guarantee whether your relationship (if you have one) will work out right or not.
Luckily enough though,almost all the guys I met were honest enough to admit on our first meeting whether they're engaged,single dads,a drug addict,only out for sex and intimacy or other stuff like that.Their honesty made me weigh my options to whether consider seeing them again or not anymore. I guess its just on my way how to bring out the 'real' them which leads to their confession.Ü
I know not all ladies are lucky enough to know guys like these, and still in the midst of finding out how I made them say the truth.
But it all boils down to one thing. It is on how the two of you will treat each other after finding out that you failed or get to meet each other's expectations - no matter how you two met.
Of course I won't deny that I have had my own share of false hopes and judgment online. I am just a girl who let's say is lucky enough on paper or online, but unlucky when it comes to personal meetups.Ü
Thanks for sharing this post and for reading my very long reaction..hehehe.
I'll definitely follow what my Christian friends always tell me - and you did too - "pray, pray and pray, long and patiently before you plunge into a lifetime commitment". I am not a pure Christian, but I am very well open to other religion especially if it will make me a better person in the eyes of God. Ü
Keep inspiring women my dear. Godbless you ^.^
That's the safest way.