Never been in a relationship: What have I been missing?

1. Heartache – If you’ve never gotten involved with the opposite sex yet, chances are, you heart’s never been broken yet, at least not to that extent and believe me, the first, the second and the rest that will follow after all hurt the same.

2. Sleepless nights/loss of appetite etc. – the pangs of being in a relationship when you’re having LQ (lovers’ quarrel) or when things are not going good between the two of you, confusion if he still likes you or not, especially if his/her texts do not come with smiling icons anymore (rolls eyes – sheesh)

3. Jealousy fits – Does this still need explanation?

4. Budgeting dates and related problems – Of course, going out costs, excluding anniversaries, special occasions and gifts.

5. Complications – Once you’ve tasted what it’s like to have a girlfriend/boyfriend, you’d want to always have one.

Relationship is work, work, work. It isn’t like you get involved, it becomes official and it’s smooth sailing from then on without effort. So unless you’re ready to give up the things you enjoy the most being a single person, don’t hurry to get in one.

So is being in a relationship all that bad (and I’m not making it sound like that at all, I, too, am vying for one)? No. Of course, we all want to love and be loved and “live happily ever after together,” and we deserve nothing less than that. But this post goes out to those virgin hearts that feel left out, left behind, like there’s something wrong with them, just because they’ve never had a girlfriend/boyfriend yet.

There’s nothing wrong with you! If you’re still in school, it’s an advantage; you can just focus on your studies. If you’ve finished school and working now, well, keep working, love will come when it comes. Your heart will beat when it will.

Once you’ve gotten involved in a relationship, you’ll never be the same again. So enjoy your singleness. Don’t be rushing into something with someone just to experience or experiment. Choose well and take time.

“Haste makes waste”.