Why are you marrying?
Do you ever ask yourself that question (given you’re single)? Why do you want to marry? What is it that’s in marrying or in marriage that attracts you?
I’m sure we can come up with a list of answers but here’s a list of reasons that I hope are not on your list:
Can’t wait anymore –
So you’ve been in this relationship for two weeks now and you won’t give in until after marriage but you can’t wait anymore so you want to rush things.
Well, bad news, there’s more to marriage than the bed. You might get the shock of your life that sex might not be that so wonderful thing the movies and romance novels make it to be. If you think it only hurts the first time for everyone, you’re wrong. I won’t discuss it further here because I’m not an authority on the matter but I encourage you to visit this site (both for male and females). So don’t get too excited and hurry getting married just for that.
Can get many things out of it –
Affection, provision, love, care, happiness, sex etc. Let’s be realistic, we can’t have it all! You might get some but not entirely and as wonderfully as you might be imagining. There’ll be differences, misunderstandings, arguments, sacrifices and nights you won’t want to be in the same bed together or even in the same house.
Getting old
This is probably the saddest and worst reason for getting hitched. Can’t blame those who have, no one wants to grow old alone but have to realize that there’s a lot of married people and those in relationships who feel alone in it so marrying isn’t really the only way to get some kind of companionship.
If you’re a woman and your biological clock is screaming ‘It’s now or never!” Well, find comfort in the thought that having children maybe an awesome thing but it comes with great responsibility you may not be prepared for.
Money –
Of all things, do not commit yourself to a lifetime of union with someone just for provision. Believe me, even if you’d have all the material things in the world but trapped in a marriage unhappily, there’s no misery worse than that.
And have a heart! Think of this other person you’re squeezing money from in exchange for your affection. You’re not that low.
So think about it. Do you want to marry out of neediness, of pressure, of lust, out of wanting change in your life? Out of convenience? Is marriage just all about getting what you want and think you need? Would you want to marry someone who only wants what he/she can get from you and out of it?
If you didn’t notice, I didn’t mention ‘love’. I will on the second part so don’t change blog.
To be continued…
I’m sure we can come up with a list of answers but here’s a list of reasons that I hope are not on your list:
Can’t wait anymore –
So you’ve been in this relationship for two weeks now and you won’t give in until after marriage but you can’t wait anymore so you want to rush things.
Well, bad news, there’s more to marriage than the bed. You might get the shock of your life that sex might not be that so wonderful thing the movies and romance novels make it to be. If you think it only hurts the first time for everyone, you’re wrong. I won’t discuss it further here because I’m not an authority on the matter but I encourage you to visit this site (both for male and females). So don’t get too excited and hurry getting married just for that.
Can get many things out of it –
Affection, provision, love, care, happiness, sex etc. Let’s be realistic, we can’t have it all! You might get some but not entirely and as wonderfully as you might be imagining. There’ll be differences, misunderstandings, arguments, sacrifices and nights you won’t want to be in the same bed together or even in the same house.
Getting old
This is probably the saddest and worst reason for getting hitched. Can’t blame those who have, no one wants to grow old alone but have to realize that there’s a lot of married people and those in relationships who feel alone in it so marrying isn’t really the only way to get some kind of companionship.
If you’re a woman and your biological clock is screaming ‘It’s now or never!” Well, find comfort in the thought that having children maybe an awesome thing but it comes with great responsibility you may not be prepared for.
Money –
Of all things, do not commit yourself to a lifetime of union with someone just for provision. Believe me, even if you’d have all the material things in the world but trapped in a marriage unhappily, there’s no misery worse than that.
And have a heart! Think of this other person you’re squeezing money from in exchange for your affection. You’re not that low.
So think about it. Do you want to marry out of neediness, of pressure, of lust, out of wanting change in your life? Out of convenience? Is marriage just all about getting what you want and think you need? Would you want to marry someone who only wants what he/she can get from you and out of it?
If you didn’t notice, I didn’t mention ‘love’. I will on the second part so don’t change blog.
To be continued…
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anyway, just wondering... what church do you go to?