Love in Waiting (Part I)

He likes me, he likes me not?

I’m sure every one of us, females, have known a guy (or knows one right now), at one time in our lives that we like so much, we’d die to know if he’s equally liking back but all we get are mixed signals in return.

The situation leaves you spinning around asking THE QUESTION of all questions, “Is he really interested or not?” If only we had a way to be certain, we’d be less confused, stressed and brokenhearted.

And because I’m not a guy I can only conclude the following:

He doesn’t like you (not that way)
If the guy is nice, friendly, helpful but NOT calling, texting, asking you out, doing personal visitations – CHANCES are, you’re just a friend. He’s really just nice. I know, I know, I know, it hurts, the truth always does but the sooner you get it through your head, the sooner you’ll be able to move on.

He’s considering other women too
Guys have the right to make many women friends or acquaintances, get to know them and then select the one he thinks is the best. And I think this is healthy. You may be one in the list but he can’t decide yet, there may be another he’s also considering and he is choosing carefully to which of you he will commit too. In a case like this, we can only cross our fingers and hope we get picked.

He’s taking it slow
Some guys like to take time. Specially, if they know you still have baggage. They plan and think before they make a move. They’re also studying you from a distance or up close. It could be they’re taking time because they don’t want to ruin what they’ve already established with you by rushing you to commit when you’re not ready yet. They’re cautious but once they make the move, they go for nothing less than victory, so just wait, and once they do, faint so they can catch you.

He’s shy
Probably, he has experienced rejection before, have low self-esteem or still young. Encourage him. It’s cute but usually, we get tired waiting for this guy to finally have the guts to say what he feels, eventually, someone comes along and snatches our attention. Nothing we can do here girls except to wait till he gathers enough face to tell you upfront how he feels.

He’s just leading you on
Ouch! Making you think there is something when there is nothing. He flirts but is never serious. He seems to care but is never there when you need him. The thing to do here is to not take him seriously either unless he sits you down and tells you otherwise.

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We really have no choice but to wait for the hunters to hunt and hopefully target us. Sometimes you’ve already made a move and still, NOTHING. The tricky part is to know when to stop waiting.

To be continued…