Jealousy (Understanding women #3)
…in relationships…
There are two reasons why a woman gets jealous.
1. Lack of trust
2. Insecurity
Lack of trust – Could be the guy she’s with has a reputation for being untrustworthy (makes you wonder why one would want to be with someone like that) or has that history in the family.
Could be that her man had cheated before or have a history of that (again, why be with someone like that?). She’s come to know her boyfriend/husband is a habitual liar. So in this case, trust had been broken.
Insecurity – A woman gets jealous of other women because she feels less than any of them so she fears being dumped for another and every other woman is a threat. There are several reasons why she’d feel this way:
- She really has self- issues (low-self-esteem) that only she can resolve herself.
- She feels loved but not enough in the relationship.
- The guy she’s with is verbally or physically abusing her.
A woman who feels secure and loved in a relationship might still experience jealousy (normal even for guys) but not to the point of breaking it up or causing fights all the time.
So jealousy isn’t all that bad. It spices up the relationship too whether it’s serious or not (just not too serious). We see it as something that can’t be warded off in a relationship.
For us women, jealousy will always be a part of loving our men, a tool letting them know how much we want to keep (take note: not own) them, as long as we just keep it at that and not overdo, I don’t think it’s really that harmful.
To be continued….
There are two reasons why a woman gets jealous.
1. Lack of trust
2. Insecurity
Lack of trust – Could be the guy she’s with has a reputation for being untrustworthy (makes you wonder why one would want to be with someone like that) or has that history in the family.
Could be that her man had cheated before or have a history of that (again, why be with someone like that?). She’s come to know her boyfriend/husband is a habitual liar. So in this case, trust had been broken.
Insecurity – A woman gets jealous of other women because she feels less than any of them so she fears being dumped for another and every other woman is a threat. There are several reasons why she’d feel this way:
- She really has self- issues (low-self-esteem) that only she can resolve herself.
- She feels loved but not enough in the relationship.
- The guy she’s with is verbally or physically abusing her.
A woman who feels secure and loved in a relationship might still experience jealousy (normal even for guys) but not to the point of breaking it up or causing fights all the time.
So jealousy isn’t all that bad. It spices up the relationship too whether it’s serious or not (just not too serious). We see it as something that can’t be warded off in a relationship.
For us women, jealousy will always be a part of loving our men, a tool letting them know how much we want to keep (take note: not own) them, as long as we just keep it at that and not overdo, I don’t think it’s really that harmful.
To be continued….
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