Cutting
(My take on it)
Cutting is a type of self injury done in utmost secrecy and prevalent among women (teen years usually) than men. Cutting is a coping mechanism that deals with strong or suppressed emotion.
Cutters are not suicidal. They don’t cut to end suffering; they cut to control what they feel. It’s hard to explain how hurting one’s self (usually with sharp objects like scissors, cutters, piece of broken glass) can help control emotion but let me try:
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A cutter is so upset about something and can’t stop crying or being angry and is getting upset with herself because she finds weeping a weakness. So she gets hold of something sharp and starts cutting or pricking herself (in places where people won’t notice the scar or in other cases, places where you could just say, u bruised or scratched it accidentally so no one would suspect you’re the one who actually mutilated yourself). Let’s say she cuts her finger and it starts to hurt so she stops there, then she stops crying too, as if the physical pain had taken the place of the emotional pain she is going through at the moment. Or it could be that because she can’t control her emotion but can control the cutting, somehow (psychologically) she finds the strength to stop or control the crying too.
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Forgive me if I didn’t so well on that but I’m no expert. But I do know that a lot of women suffer from it, secretly. Most of those who do are surprisingly, intelligent ones, perfectionists even.
Like I said before, I’m not an expert on the matter but I have this to say:
We, women are emotional creatures therefore we can’t help not to get upset or emotional at times. We need to cry, tears is essential to our survival. Notice that even extreme feeling of happiness causes us to cry. So it’s ok to burst into weeping now and then and let others know. It’s ok be upset, to not be able to do everything perfectly – who can anyway?
Some grow out of cutting but not all. There is always hope!
1. Pray to God and ask forgiveness AND HELP.
2. Admit and TELL AND TALK TO SOMEONE Many got out of it just by doing this.)
3. Be determined and work on getting out of it
Further readings:
Teenshealth - cutting
To Write Love On Her Arms
When she cries
Cutting is a type of self injury done in utmost secrecy and prevalent among women (teen years usually) than men. Cutting is a coping mechanism that deals with strong or suppressed emotion.
Cutters are not suicidal. They don’t cut to end suffering; they cut to control what they feel. It’s hard to explain how hurting one’s self (usually with sharp objects like scissors, cutters, piece of broken glass) can help control emotion but let me try:
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A cutter is so upset about something and can’t stop crying or being angry and is getting upset with herself because she finds weeping a weakness. So she gets hold of something sharp and starts cutting or pricking herself (in places where people won’t notice the scar or in other cases, places where you could just say, u bruised or scratched it accidentally so no one would suspect you’re the one who actually mutilated yourself). Let’s say she cuts her finger and it starts to hurt so she stops there, then she stops crying too, as if the physical pain had taken the place of the emotional pain she is going through at the moment. Or it could be that because she can’t control her emotion but can control the cutting, somehow (psychologically) she finds the strength to stop or control the crying too.
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Forgive me if I didn’t so well on that but I’m no expert. But I do know that a lot of women suffer from it, secretly. Most of those who do are surprisingly, intelligent ones, perfectionists even.
Like I said before, I’m not an expert on the matter but I have this to say:
We, women are emotional creatures therefore we can’t help not to get upset or emotional at times. We need to cry, tears is essential to our survival. Notice that even extreme feeling of happiness causes us to cry. So it’s ok to burst into weeping now and then and let others know. It’s ok be upset, to not be able to do everything perfectly – who can anyway?
Some grow out of cutting but not all. There is always hope!
1. Pray to God and ask forgiveness AND HELP.
2. Admit and TELL AND TALK TO SOMEONE Many got out of it just by doing this.)
3. Be determined and work on getting out of it
Further readings:
Teenshealth - cutting
To Write Love On Her Arms
When she cries
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