- You like him (BUT not that way). He likes you too (BUT not that way either BUT he thought more) – The opposite gender misread us also (all too often) and at times too, end up thinking we’re doing things for them because we want to hook up (date or be more than friends).
It’s so natural for us women to give an ear, lend a hand, offer a shoulder, give love unconditionally (without malice or agenda) to a friend who is going through something whether married or single, male or female. Unfortunately, sometimes it puts us in a bad light or even gets us in trouble.
Situation #1 - Your caring ways have been misinterpreted. Maybe you’ve overdone something??? The guy thinks (or imagines too) that you have a terrible liking for him but he can’t reciprocate and doesn’t want to hurt your feelings so he starts avoiding you. Don’t feel insulted, you don’t like him that way anyway. Let him be. Forgive and continue being a good friend. In time he will realize his mistake and stop running.
Situation #2 - Continuing situation #1. The guy takes it a step further. He told everyone in the planet you’ve been extra nice and rumors have started. Hold your fire! This is not worth a death sentence for. Usually, rumors die when you don’t react to them. You know the truth and the people who know you better knows better not to believe it too. Distance yourself but if your help is ever needed, be willing to contribute.
Again, a potential good friendship is put to ruins because of a simple miscommunication.
To be continued…(just 2 more to go…)
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